i live in a world full of “I”-s. each and everyone of those i know is self-centred, at least at a certain level. but what really made me think was the over-estimated opinion some may have regarding their personality. you see, some of my classmates tend to think of me as being that nerd that has a passion for studying and pleasing teachers. they’re better than me in so many ways, i cannot even count them. and the first issue is that they do have this weird characteristic i keep mentioning, while i don’t. but here comes the funniest part: how come i see it completely in reverse?
i notice them wondering around, in groups. they smoke together, they talk dirty together, act cool and jerk others around together. yet, i’ve never seen any of them acting like this on their own. even more, try asking one of them why he/she is the way they are. they’ll just say “it’s the trend, it’s how these things work.” . on the other side of the hand, i’ve never had a problem with being the freakthat reads and learns. i enjoy finding out new stuff every day, and i enjoy passing it over to my subconscious in order to be stored. i never thought it’s anyone’s problem but mine the way i choose to be, without discussing right now whether it’s the right way or not.
and now i come to ask. who is it who lacks personality. yes, they do have nerve, they ignore other’s opinions,but only if you don’t separate them- is that what personality is really about?
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Mike said,
March 12, 2009 at 5:20 pm
A pretty safe approach of the “personality problem” and pretty accurate, considering that I’m one of these guys. From my point of view, discussing someone and a group require different fields of knowledge. Group personality is something…and individual personality is something else. The group personality is more violent, balder, more annoying, stronger and it’s a safe side to play for those with personality problems. As you have probably noticed, if you take one of those guys apart and “bully” him with words or even physically they will instantly back out or retreat to their group.
Individual personality is something more fragile, easy changeable and people are afraid to expose their individual personality so they won’t be broken by someone more powerful.
Anyway…there are all sorts of groups you can choose from. For example I am a part of many groups such ass street groups, school groups, etc and theater groups, dancing groups, reading groups etc….the choice of a good group for you that can enhance your individual personality is a choice made by few but with strong personalities or by those who acknowledge their personality problem.
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Just so you know it takes guts and strong personality to maintain your position. Keep it up…nerd (kidding):)))
copingkoala said,
December 17, 2009 at 4:58 pm
on the other hand- that’s just the kind of personality, that seeks acceptance by the easiest way- just to be like it’s “in” to be, no to be yourself.
To find acknowledgement and acceptance by being yourself is harder, difficult and it takes more time- so some people just don’t have the courage to try it and take the easier way…